Men on Tinder believe they are entitled to casual sex as compensation if their date is not as pretty as her photos


The British Sociological Association's annual conference report that men on the dating app Tinder believe they have a 'licence to use women as they see fit', for compensation if their date's appearance isn't as pretty as their profile pictures.
They say that entitles them to casual sex twith their dates to make up for the so-called 'breach of trust', experts found.

Dr Jenny van Hooff, senior lecturer in sociology at Manchester Metropolitan University, said: 'Many of our respondents felt let down on meeting a woman and on feeling a visual representation hadn't been accurate.
'Some of our respondents felt that this breaking of trust was a licence to use their date as they saw fit, thereby speeding up intimacy and undermining it at the same time.'
Among the comments researchers received from men using the app were:

  • A 29-year-old man said: 'I've been very misled by very selective pictures, angles when the person isn't as attractive or as slim or sporty as they make out on pictures. I try to swerve if possible, or get something out of it.' 
  • One 37-year-old man said: ''I am looking for a long term relationship, but you know within seconds of meeting someone whether that's going to happen. So now, I think if there's a chance of a shag I'll take it. Lots of girls put 'no one-night stands' on their profiles, but they still end up having them. Tinder has really toughened me up.' 
  • A 34-year-old told researchers: 'What I will say is that it is natural for human beings to take advantage of each other, and Tinder hasn't changed this, but it has made it easier.'
  • One 36-year-old man said: 'It's Tinder - I would say your chances of getting sex go up if a girl's lied on her profile.' 
  • A 38-year-old man said: 'I went to meet her in a bar in the Northern Quarter and I could see that she was really fat. If it had been the kind of bar where I could have left without her seeing me, I would have done, but I was stuck there.' They ended the evening by having a one-night stand.
The researchers found that Tinder and other dating apps had 'commodified' relationships at the same time as making them more available. 
This could be liberating for men, but also make them feel vulnerable about how attractive and successful they were with women.

source:lindaikejisblog

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